Wednesday, February 27, 2013

David Walker




You hear a lot of names when it comes to slavery in America. You have your Harriet Tubman's and your Frederick Douglas's who both were a vital part in the freeing of slaves, but I want to inform my blog readers on my unsung hero of slavery. His name is David Walker.


Last year, I watched a documentary called "Africans in America : America's Journey through Slavery". I love history, but no history I love more than my own. I learned a lot about the slave trade and the horrors that Africans faced traveling to a new land and being held in bondage. The story that stood out the most to me was the story of David Walker.


David Walker resided in Boston, MA (shout out to my homey, E! Massachusetts stand up). His father was enslaved, but his mother was free, so by law he was considered free. David Walker didn't just take his freedom, move up North (he was born in the Carolinas), and just lived his life. He determined to change the ways of the nation. He joined forces with other black activists and wrote for the Freedom's Journal, a weekly African-American newspaper out of NYC. He also authored Appeal...to the Colored Citizens of the World which is plainly known as David Walker's Appeal. In his "Appeal" he challenged his fellow brothers and sisters to fight for their freedom through faith, education, and if need be, violence.


A very religious man, David Walker compared the struggles of the slaves in America to the slaves of Egypt, and spoke against white people who would pervert the words of the Bible to justify slavery in America. Nothing like MLK, David Walker took the Malcolm X approach. He wrote ". . .they want us for their slaves, and think nothing of murdering us. . . therefore, if there is an attempt made by us, kill or be killed. . . and believe this, that it is no more harm for you to kill a man who is trying to kill you, than it is for you to take a drink of water when thirsty." An opponent to Thomas Jefferson, David Walker spoke out against the idea of colonization or sending the slaves back to Africa. He believed that without the slaves' hard work, America wouldn't have became the great country that it became so he was staying put! He also encouraged black men to value education and to promote education among their brothers. Walker told stories of him arguing with other black men about the education of their children, and how one must know more than just to read and write (scribble, he called it).


Some parts of David Walker's Appeal could still be applied today to the black community. The education system has suffered, and poverty runs rampant throughout the inner-cities. I believe blacks should not look to government for assistance but rebuild our communities from within.


Obviously a black man writing such literature would piss off white people in the south, so there were was a bounty put on his head ($3,000 dead / $10,000 alive). Mysteriously he was found dead the next year in his home. Some speculate that he was poisoned, but there was never any proof.


That's your Black History minute with ya boy Fatdreek! Tune in next year....


Signing Out,


Fatdreek

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Fatdreek's 5 Greatest Love Songs of All Time

I'll admit, I hated lovey dovey music growing up. I always liked the old school 1950s - 1970s R&B, but all music back then was greater. Once I got married, love songs started to resonate with ya boy a lot more. This Valentine day, I want to countdown my top 5 love songs of all time. It's bigger than just R&B. I have white friends who have made me suffer through country music, and outward I may show disgust, but inward I think "that's some sweet stuff". Let's start out with #5 :


Eric Clapton's "Wonderful Tonight" 


Every woman in the world wants to hear how beautiful and loving and caring she is from their man, and Eric Clapton perfects it while strumming the guitar like no other! Forgive the 9 minute video, but Eric Clapton sounds a lot better live then in the Studio! 

#4 : K-CI & Jo-Jo's "All My Life"


When you find a woman who's close to you like your mother, father, brother, and sister, you have to write a ballad such as this. I actually hate this song because I've heard it a billion times growing up. Still warrants a spot on the top 5!

#3 : Shania Twain's "From This Moment" 


I know my redneck homies are asking what I know about the Queen of Country, Shania Twain, and I would reply not much, but I DO know that this is a powerful song! This song came on every 2 hours when I worked at McDonalds, and my white sister, Victoria Lowder kept Shania Twain's c.d. in arm's reach. 

#2 : L L Cool J's "I Need Love" 


Before chasing bad guys on CSI, LL Cool J ruled the rap world, and no song was bigger than "I Need Love". He said he wants "Friendship, Trust, Honor, Respect, & Admiration" on the 3rd verse, and all I can say is don't we all LL, don't we all! (Check out the abusive father at the 1:20 mark)

#1 : Luther Vandross's "Here & Now"


It doesn't get better than this! I love the song so much, I sang it to my wife on our wedding day. The video is horrible, but the song is a classic. If you can't recite the lyrics to this song to your spouse on your wedding day and not truly mean them, then just call the thing off!

Honorable Mentions : 

Barry White's "My 1st, My Last, My Everything"

Beyonce's  "Halo" 

Celine Dion's  "Because You Loved Me"

Kem's "I Cant Stop Loving You"

Etta James "At Last"

& "Gangem Style"

Signing out,

Fatdreek







Friday, January 18, 2013

Hate

I have a resolution for all of my blog readers that is easily life-applicable!

Stop all of ya hating!!!

My Atlanta Falcons are 1 game away from going to the Super Bowl, and I can not believe all of the hate that I have to endure on a daily basis!



I post a picture on instagram of my falcons and followers just have to muster the energy to type negativity toward my falcons because their team is out of the playoffs!

I got calls before the playoffs started, stating that my team would lose in its 1st game like in previous years, and after they won that game, they rescind their 1st statement, but they are 100% positive that we are going to lose in the next game. All the while, their teams are sitting on the couch watching my falcons defy the odds! Every commentator on sports television or radio have the Falcons losing every week. All season, the Falcons were doubted against halfway decent teams (Dallas, Redskins, Denver, etc..) and we handled them all, but still we get doubted everyday, and I believe that fuels the fire!

I love my city, because at the Georgia Dome (where the Falcons play), it doesn't matter your race, it doesn't matter your political party or your socioeconomic makeup. Everybody is there with the same mind frame .. and that's supporting the home team! I've had to endure the smack talk from Patriot fans and Steeler fans, and Giant fans, but when its our time to shine, we get doubted and hated! CUT IT OUT!!!

When the Falcons got knocked out of the playoffs year after year, I didn't hate on the next team. I respected the teams that made it deep in the playoffs. I just ask for the same respect! If all you have is hate in your spirit on teams that have outlasted yours, stop watching football and go watch the OWN network or reruns of Paula Dean with your wives! As a matter of fact, if you got that much hate in your spirit, you probably can't find a woman to marry ya, and if you are married, I bet your wife isn't happy! (Sorry for getting too personal)

If you don't like the mess I talk about my Falcons winning, then just delete me on Facebook and stop reading my blog, because win or lose, its Falcon Nation!! RISE UP!!!

The only thing that I have hated on is Lebron James, and you can read my previous blog to find out why, but I have great reasoning! I do respect him though!

Now this Hate goes outside of sports. I know girls that hate on other girls because they're in a good relationship or they have a better hairstyle or they have a better job or they have more friends and get more attention than you! You're no better than a Falcon hater.

God doesn't make any mistakes! If your team isn't in the final 4 of the playoffs, or your breath smells bad, or your candidate wasn't elected, or your toes have mad fungus. These are no reasons to have spirits filled with hate. Some things in life you can't change, so just get over it. Don't hate on the next man because he's better off than you! Turn that hatred into motivation to better yourself.

2 things I hate! Haters & Tax Return Ballers!!

Signing Out,

Fatdreek


Friday, January 4, 2013

"Protect Ya Neck"

My father was not a consistent part in my life growing up.

But he gave me the single most important advice I have ever heard :

"If you ever pull a gun on someone, you better use it!"

 I remember staying at his and my great-grandma's house one weekend in high school, and I found a pistol in his bedroom (please keep weapons away from children). I stood in the mirror posing with the pistol like I was Al Capone.


After playing "Golden Eye" on my Nintendo 64 and watching countless action films, I thought I was an expert in using guns, so I didn't know the seriousness of me pulling the trigger and a bullet flying through the walls hitting one of my family members. When I told my dad about my encounter, he gave me the advice above. "A gun should always be your last resort" He told me. "1st you have to Knuckle Up, and if guns are drawn than you draw and don't ask any questions!"

I never got in many fights growing up. Nobody ever wanted to pick a fight with a guy twice their size, and plus I'm a teddy bear! Everybody loved Fatdreek. I remember beating up this kid with mono in middle school in which I got suspended from school and my grandma took me fishing (gotta love Grandma!). I beat up a homeless guy (I assumed he was homeless) when I lived in Atlanta walking to work one day. I'm a teddy bear, but sometimes I can get real grizzlyish when provoked! Moral of the story, I'm a good guy who doesn't look for trouble.

But Ah! What am I to do when trouble approaches? There is a lot of good on this planet, but for every good thing there is an equal evil thing on the other end. I know a lot of people just want to believe that everybody is good-natured and wishes the best for everybody on the planet but that's just not the case. With the economy low, people who are down on their luck either turn to religion or get to a desperate state and once desperation comes into play, a person who has nothing to lose will make decisions that could effect you (i.e. theft, armed robberies, death).

To Men : If you have a wife and kids, you have to arm yourself. Criminals are not walking around unarmed. I've never heard of a criminal kicking in your back door and tickling you until you faint and then stealing your possessions.They are kicking in your door to inflict harm on you and your loved ones and its your responsibility to protect your family to the best of your abilities.

To Women : Maybe you're single... (Don't worry, read some of my old blogs to learn how to scoop you a man!) Maybe your husband is always working and you're home alone a lot. You too, need to protect yourself and your possessions. Some women use pepper spray. Do whatever you have to do, to protect yourself. It's a dirty world out here!!

Now maybe you're new to this whole gun conversation. Maybe you're wondering where to purchase one. This isn't like the movies, where you go to the hood, and purchase firearms from someone's trunk. Unless you're a felon, you can go to gun shows (I know you see the billboards for them). You can go to pawn shops. They even have websites that you can purchase guns from. Google "Bud's Gun Shop" or something like that, and take a gander.

Now lets get into the whole law of firearms. I can only speak for the great state of GA. In Georgia, you are allowed to have a firearm in your home, workplace, or your automobile. You can't have the gun concealed unless you have a permit. (Concealed in your car means in the glove box or under the seat, but you can have your gun in your passenger seat). Otherwise, concealed means carrying on you like in your pockets or a holdster.

To get a permit to carry, you need to hit up the probate court and give your fingerprints to the courthouse and give them a few bucks. Just google everything, I don't have the information for everybody because every country in GA might be different.

Just within the last week, a Waffle House was robbed and employees were robbed walking out of a Rue 21 at 11:00 pm in Conyers. Streets ain't safe! Protect ya Neck!!!

Signing out,

Fatdreek

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Screw Your Resolutions! But If I were to have them....



My New Year resolutions are obsolete this year! They typically don't last. Of course if I were to have resolutions they would deal with weight-loss and acquiring more riches, but my weight-loss struggles are just that STRUGGLES. I have to make resolutions everyday to make the right decisions regarding my weight. Acquiring riches is a mind frame I've been in since I was 13 years old. Im saying screw resolutions but if I were to have resolutions this is what they would be....

Be an excellent father come April 26th, 2013 when my son enters the Earth.....

Get my butt in church more often....

Read a lot more (including the Bible).....

Be more active (period).....

Make & Save more money....

That's about it, but like I said before, screw the resolutions. I should have posted this blog in the middle of the year, just to be a rebel.

I do want to blog more. I have a lot of ideas that have fell to the wayside, because Im not on my job like I should be, so expect more blogs in 2013.

To reflect on 2012,

I learned a lot about myself :

I learned that I love my wife and family more than anything...

I learned that I need to work on my patience (via my dog, Buddy)...

I learned that I actually do enjoy reading...

I also learned a lot of things from situations around me. I had a lot of friends go through heart-aches this past year, and I was happy to be there to lend an ear or a shoulder to lean on.

I visited Jamaica for my wife's birthday and Las Vegas for mine (2 more destinations off the Bucket List)

Don't think I'll be doing too much traveling this year (with Jr on the way), but hopefully I can squeeze one trip in toward the end of the year.

That's about it!!!

I hope everyone has a prosperous 2013, and stay tuned to this thing we call Fatdreek.Blogspot.Com

Signing out,

Fatdreek



Thursday, November 22, 2012

Thanksgiving 2012

"Why do I have so much and other people so little?"

This is the question, Reverend Marlin Harris asked at New Life Church this past Sunday. 

He had just returned from a missions trip to Africa, and saw poverty all around him. He mentioned looking at their praise for the little they had, you would think they were millionaires. While people, here in the United States complain and gripe about the inconveniences in their life. 

I can vouch for the reverend. My wife and I went to Jamaica for her birthday this year, and instead of staying on the resort in Montego Bay the whole time, we decided to catch a very expensive cab ride to Kingston which is on the other side of the island. There were beautiful moments as we saw the ocean and the beaches of Jamaica...

Our cab driver

Beautiful Ocean

Roadside


As we got closer to Kingston, you could tell the conditions of the roads were getting rougher and the smog from the city life polluted the blue skies. The cab driver told us stories of how small things like air freshener and washing detergent were so expensive over there. We drove through slums, and I don't mean the section 8 apartments that my dad and I lived in during my summer vacations from college, I mean actual slums. The houses couldn't have been any bigger than a bedroom here. 

Seeing different cultures like that, opens you eyes to true poverty, and makes you thankful for the simplest things like running water and air conditioners. These are things that are so common to us, but people in Jamaica and Africa and other poor countries would kill for those things, and yet they find it in their heart to be thankful. 

This Thanksgiving, I'm thankful for the small things.....

Signing out,

Fatdreek

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Marital Warfare


My 3 Year Wedding Anniversary was a month ago. 3 years of wedding bliss means that I don't really know a whole lot about marriage. We are still technically wet behind the ears, but I do know from 7 years of dating  the same woman and witnessing good and bad marriages around me, what it takes to have a long fulfilling union. I want to dedicate this blog to all of my married friends and my friends who are inching towards marriage with their "boo thang" (as I like to call them), I call this blog, "Marital Warfare".

In the world of Kim Kardashians and Kris Humphries, marriage may seem like just something to do.

"Oh, we've been on a couple of dates, and I think we are cute together so lets get married, not knowing anything about each other, but just because it seems like the cool thing to do" OR

"Well, we've had sex a couple of times or I've gotten pregnant, and just to right the situation, I think I will marry this person" OR

"Even though I don't love him or her, I could change him or her and grow to love them"

Basing a marriage on theses foundations will leave you on the next edition of "Best of Divorce Court"




I dont believe in divorce in most instances (I'll get back to that later). I also dont believe in ignorant marrying either! Ignorant marrying are the examples I gave you above. Marrying somebody because it's cool. Marrying someone because you're having sex with them. Marrying someone because you think that they will change after time. Marrying someone because all of your friends and family have gotten married, and you don't want to be the odd ball out.

Now to avoid the "ignorant marrying", you have to do some ground work. When you're dating a person, you really need to learn about a person. If your boyfriend/girlfriend just wants to hang out in big groups or go to a movie, where no communication is happening, you may need to reconsider the whole marriage thing. Find out what kind of family they come from. Divorce maybe something that is common to them. Maybe they come from a family where they say "I love you" all of the time, and they are all touchy and feely, and you come from a family where the only time your parents touched you, was when you were getting your backside lit up. This could be a conflict of interest. I recommend the following book...


"Before the Ring" By William L. Coleman


This book has questions that will help you get to know your potential spouse. 

 I felt like I did enough research on my wife, to determine that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. We dated from 03' - 08'. Was engaged for a year and some change. We saw each other's bad side and good side, we knew that there were going to be some conflicts with our marrying each other, but it was all good for us. 


I know people who are miserable in their marriages. Happy in every aspect of their life, but when they get home to their spouse, it turns into marital warfare. Why put yourself through the torture? I tell my boys that I would rather my wife cheat on me with 1,000,000 men (without me finding out) then to go home to a wife who nags and argues non-stop! I believe in peace and tranquility when I get home from work. Of course, my wife and I will argue (who doesn't), but if you implement this next word, arguments will not last long and your commitment will be more fulfilling.....

RESPECT        

Aretha Frankin wasn't lying when she sang that she wanted respect when her man came home. She cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, and the least her man could do was show her some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. But this respect thing is something that has to be shown by both parties. You may have a man come home to an Aretha Franklin who is disrespectful. When arguments lack respect, you have more hurtful things that are said. When respect is shown, parties usually come to an agreement a lot faster. Just think of it as a math formula (sorry Im an accountant)

Disagreement - Respect = Heated Argument

Disagreement + Respect = Disagreement

You and your spouse may never come to an agreement but love will not be lost. When respect is lacking, words are said that may just sting the 1st time, but after a while, its going to have you considering divorce court. Sometimes throwing a 3rd party in the mix like a counselor or shrink could make you or your spouse see the argument from a different view. 

Above I said, I don't believe in divorce. I don't believe in waking up one morning, and saying "I've had enough, see ya later" or "We've grown apart over the years" or "the kids have graduated high school, and I don't want you anymore". I'm just speaking about myself now. I'm not the type to judge any situation. I've explained to my wife that when adultery gets involved, she or I will have to go. The bible says forgive, but forgetting would be the hard part. It would be days of worrying where your spouse is. Checking phone messages. Questioning their coming and going. I can't live that life! Once the trust is gone, love will soon follow. So as long as my wife and I stay faithful to each other, its going to be a long long marriage. 

Every marriage is different, but if you take the time and put the groundwork in during the dating years, the marriage will be very fulfilling or you could be dodging a bullet  People change over the years, and sometimes you have to adapt. There are tons of topics that I will delve into in future blogs, so stay tuned...

Signing out,

Fatdreek